them. Point in case: I have a friend (male) who says the most random things, I mean the most random things to me; and if I wasn't someone guarding my heart and emotions I would do what I would have done in the past: read between the lines. Something so simple as a male friend telling me they like my perfume would have launched me into a spending spree to buy enough perfume to keep on hand, lol (so serious -_-). Let's be honest, I'm not the only one who has read between the lines. One sentence from a guy we like or think is cute launches us into hour-long conversations with our girl friends breaking down the sentence word-by-word. The end result is that we're more attached (emotionally) than we were before and now we're convinced that he must like us; I mean why would he say that if he didn't, right? Lol...and it spirals downward from there. The problem isn't girls over read everything only, but guys are not careful with their words. Words are very powerful; they can build us up, tear us down. So, a girl who has a crush on a guy will either continue to like him or not based on his words first. It boils down to this: Men (not boys) say what you mean to say, and girls guard your hearts.....please, guard your hearts.
Showing posts with label Emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Emotions. Show all posts
Monday, August 1, 2011
Don't Read Between the Lines....
I've been blessed with the opportunity to read a wonderful book entitled: Emotional Purity: An Affair of the Heart . It ties into the discussion I've been having with my last single girl friends lately. Though we may not be in romantic relationships (with the opposite sex), we still have a tendency to emotionally attach ourselves tothem. Point in case: I have a friend (male) who says the most random things, I mean the most random things to me; and if I wasn't someone guarding my heart and emotions I would do what I would have done in the past: read between the lines. Something so simple as a male friend telling me they like my perfume would have launched me into a spending spree to buy enough perfume to keep on hand, lol (so serious -_-). Let's be honest, I'm not the only one who has read between the lines. One sentence from a guy we like or think is cute launches us into hour-long conversations with our girl friends breaking down the sentence word-by-word. The end result is that we're more attached (emotionally) than we were before and now we're convinced that he must like us; I mean why would he say that if he didn't, right? Lol...and it spirals downward from there. The problem isn't girls over read everything only, but guys are not careful with their words. Words are very powerful; they can build us up, tear us down. So, a girl who has a crush on a guy will either continue to like him or not based on his words first. It boils down to this: Men (not boys) say what you mean to say, and girls guard your hearts.....please, guard your hearts.
them. Point in case: I have a friend (male) who says the most random things, I mean the most random things to me; and if I wasn't someone guarding my heart and emotions I would do what I would have done in the past: read between the lines. Something so simple as a male friend telling me they like my perfume would have launched me into a spending spree to buy enough perfume to keep on hand, lol (so serious -_-). Let's be honest, I'm not the only one who has read between the lines. One sentence from a guy we like or think is cute launches us into hour-long conversations with our girl friends breaking down the sentence word-by-word. The end result is that we're more attached (emotionally) than we were before and now we're convinced that he must like us; I mean why would he say that if he didn't, right? Lol...and it spirals downward from there. The problem isn't girls over read everything only, but guys are not careful with their words. Words are very powerful; they can build us up, tear us down. So, a girl who has a crush on a guy will either continue to like him or not based on his words first. It boils down to this: Men (not boys) say what you mean to say, and girls guard your hearts.....please, guard your hearts.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
Expectations vs Reality
and always find myself connecting with the split screen showing Tom's expectations vs reality. I can't even count how many times that my expectations did not line up with reality......I'm done with my 500 days of Summer, it's time to meet Autumn. Lol.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Emotionally Promiscuous
I awake; my head hurts, the light is too bright.
What time is it? What happened last night?
All the events come back to me; I throw the covers over my head in shame.
I realized I have been promiscuous again; but not with my body, with my emotions.
This seems to be something effecting the youth in the church lately. We like someone, throw our emotions on them with our baggage and don’t even consider the fact if they want it. I know I have been guilty of it more than once. My emotions run ahead of me, filling my mind with daydreams and expectations; and suddenly it ends. You see them for who they are really or they are not as amazing as you imagined them to be and now you’re left with the aftermath. They return your baggage with a few additional pieces. I have even been guilty of emotional one night stands: you meet someone, you get along (you think you two “clicked”) and you proceed to imagine how you will tell your children how you met; only to never see or talk to that person again. And if you do see them again, the conversation or “connection” wasn’t as it was before.
What also makes emotional abstinence even harder is when we’re in relationships. We normally start out wrong; we date someone to get to know them when really we should be hanging out with each other and keeping the romantic aspect of the relationship at bay. If we keep our emotions in check, than we can keep our bodies in check. We need to think about relationships the way God intended, not the way the world does. In Romans 12:2 (KJV) states “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, acceptable, and perfect will of God”. And I can say the perfect will of God is not throwing our emotions at each other or giving them away so freely. When you look at that verse it tells us if we don’t think like the world and have our minds renewed we will know what is good, what is acceptable and what is perfect in God’s will. One thing that is good, acceptable and perfect in the will of God is: The Fruit of the Spirit Self-Control (Galatians 5:22-23, or temperance in the KJV).
Self- Control is defined by the dictionary as “the act of denying yourself; controlling your impulses.” In everyday terms you can define it simply as controlling yourself. In this day and age, denying yourself or controlling your impulses is unheard of. But that definition alone is part of being a Christian. When we accept Christ it’s all about denying those fleshy things that try to drag us downward and away from God and allowing the Spirit to reign in us and over our lives so we can walk and be led by Christ. So, to tie this in with emotional promiscuity, we need to practice ALL the fruits of the Spirit to be able to protect our heart but also to make sure we don’t act on “impulses” but act in accordance with the Spirit’s leading…..This entry took a lot longer than I planned, but I hope that this blesses you. As God reveals more of Himself to me and shows me where I’m coming up short, it makes me want to share with others because I know there are many of us willing to be set apart and stand up for Christ. Be blessed.
What time is it? What happened last night?
All the events come back to me; I throw the covers over my head in shame.
I realized I have been promiscuous again; but not with my body, with my emotions.
This seems to be something effecting the youth in the church lately. We like someone, throw our emotions on them with our baggage and don’t even consider the fact if they want it. I know I have been guilty of it more than once. My emotions run ahead of me, filling my mind with daydreams and expectations; and suddenly it ends. You see them for who they are really or they are not as amazing as you imagined them to be and now you’re left with the aftermath. They return your baggage with a few additional pieces. I have even been guilty of emotional one night stands: you meet someone, you get along (you think you two “clicked”) and you proceed to imagine how you will tell your children how you met; only to never see or talk to that person again. And if you do see them again, the conversation or “connection” wasn’t as it was before.
What also makes emotional abstinence even harder is when we’re in relationships. We normally start out wrong; we date someone to get to know them when really we should be hanging out with each other and keeping the romantic aspect of the relationship at bay. If we keep our emotions in check, than we can keep our bodies in check. We need to think about relationships the way God intended, not the way the world does. In Romans 12:2 (KJV) states “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, acceptable, and perfect will of God”. And I can say the perfect will of God is not throwing our emotions at each other or giving them away so freely. When you look at that verse it tells us if we don’t think like the world and have our minds renewed we will know what is good, what is acceptable and what is perfect in God’s will. One thing that is good, acceptable and perfect in the will of God is: The Fruit of the Spirit Self-Control (Galatians 5:22-23, or temperance in the KJV).
Self- Control is defined by the dictionary as “the act of denying yourself; controlling your impulses.” In everyday terms you can define it simply as controlling yourself. In this day and age, denying yourself or controlling your impulses is unheard of. But that definition alone is part of being a Christian. When we accept Christ it’s all about denying those fleshy things that try to drag us downward and away from God and allowing the Spirit to reign in us and over our lives so we can walk and be led by Christ. So, to tie this in with emotional promiscuity, we need to practice ALL the fruits of the Spirit to be able to protect our heart but also to make sure we don’t act on “impulses” but act in accordance with the Spirit’s leading…..This entry took a lot longer than I planned, but I hope that this blesses you. As God reveals more of Himself to me and shows me where I’m coming up short, it makes me want to share with others because I know there are many of us willing to be set apart and stand up for Christ. Be blessed.
Monday, July 27, 2009
No More!
I am sick and tired of hearing about them! I would be happy for them if it was God’s will but the more I hear about it the more I am nervous for them. I pray that they take the next steps as led by God and not by their emotions.
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